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I felt my husband was cheating on me and continuously lying to me in every matter. I decided to search about it online and found out all 25 signs of a cheating husband in the man to whom I loved the most. It was the most devastating feeling that I had never felt before. The pain was beyond to explain in words and made me doubt on my own existence. I loved him blindly and every moment I spent with him or whatever he said to me looked like an illusion and lie. I knew my nature and it was clear that I won’t be able to trust him again, so I decided to not take back my cheating husband. Why? Let me explain you the reason of it.

Trust and Love Go Away

I have read in many books that trust level increases after betrayal, but the reality is absolutely opposite. You can’t trust that person again rather doubt replaces the trust and you always feel afraid of facing the same situation again. I wanted a relationship based on mutual trust which he broke and the relationship wasn’t same as before.

No More Mental Stress

Doubting your spouse is a very critical mental state, a combination of uncertainty and pain. You feel devastated and restless all the time. When he goes out, you want to check his laptop, he is in office and you are checking his social media profiles, he is sleeping and you are awake just to check his cell phone. You are not only disturbing your spouse, but also continuously pinching your mind and ruining your mental health. Leave him or her and start living a fearless life where there is no fear of being cheated on.

Value Your Self-Respect

If you don’t respect yourself, then who else will be? Respect yourself and love yourself. By leaving a cheating spouse, you give a clear message to him/ her, society, and your kids that cheating isn’t acceptable un anyway. You are a human being and you lived in the relationship with loyalty. You gave your time, efforts, energy, money, and attention to this relationship and deserve the same in return. Why to accept infidelity instead? If he fails to give you what you deserve, then there is no need to get back what you don’t deserve.

Remember, you got married to your spouse with good intensions and wanted to live with him or her forever. You wanted a partner, not a child to whom you teach the difference between the right and the wrong. A spouse is someone who is your companion is good and bad times and always get ready to live with him or her in every situation, but don’t forgive infidelity especially it confirms that your spouse isn’t making true efforts for the relationship. Living alone with self-respect is far better than living with a cheater as once a cheater always a cheater.

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